Who pays for what at your wedding? Expert commentary

Planning a wedding can be tremendous fun, despite the time and effort required.

Working out a budget for your wedding is one of the first things that should be done, once the date is set. Will the ceremony be formal, semiformal or informal? A formal wedding, of course, will be the most expensive and the informal, the least.

But, who pays for what? Unlike a decade ago, the lines are no longer rigidly drawn. The burden of paying for the wedding has shifted in recent years from the shoulders of the father of the bride, to include the groom's family. And, with many couples marrying later and having money of their own, they are sharing in the expenses also.

There are no longer any hard and fast rules as to "Who Pays for What", but a general guideline follows as to the traditional breakdown.

Wedding Item  Who pays  
Wedding Gown, Headpiece & Accessories The Bride's Family
Wedding Ring for Bride The Groom
Wedding Ring for Groom The Bride
Wedding Gift for Groom The Bride
Wedding Gift for Bride The Groom
Bridesmaid Gifts The Bride
Groomsmen/Usher Gifts The Groom
Bride's Bouquet The Groom
Bridesmaid Bouquets The Bride's Family
Mother's Corsages The Groom
Grandmother Corsages   The Bride's Family 
Groom's Boutonniere The Groom
Groomsmen Boutonnieres The Groom
Usher's Boutonnieres The Groom
Ceremony/Reception Flowers  The Bride's Family
Altar Baskets/Arches The Bride's Family
Canopy/Carpet The Bride's Family
Kneeling Bench/Candleabrahs The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Wedding  The Bride's Family
Rented Items for Reception  The Bride's Family
Invitations/Announcements The Bride's Family
Wedding Programs The Bride's Family
Napkins/Matches/Printed Items The Bride's Family
Marriage License The Groom
Church Fee The Bride's Family
Clergyman/Officiant Fee The Groom
Musician/Soloist  The Bride's Family
Church Janitor The Bride's Family
Reception Hall Fee The Bride's Family
Catered Reception/Professional Services  The Bride's Family
Wedding Photography The Bride's Family
Orchestra/Band/DJ The Bride's Family
Wedding Favors The Bride's Family
Groom's Cake The Groom's Family
Rice Bags The Bride's Family
Rehearsal Dinner   The Grooms Family 
Bridesmaid's Gowns  Bridesmaid's/ Bride's Family
Maid of Honor Gown Maid of Honor/ Bride's Family
Limousine Service The Groom

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